Shit happens, you know. Life is unpredictable, and it should be. Failures (and «failures») are inevitable. Most of them are a consequence of our mistakes, and external factors are catalysts. The good news is that everyone who makes something sometimes makes a mistake (the one who does nothing makes his own mistake). Failure should be turned into experience by drawing conclusions. This act is called the acceptance of the problem.
The following sequence of actions helps me. Secluded, told myself (better aloud; do not go to the next point before absorbing the current one):
— I understand what this is not because of something, but for something.
— I don’t blame anyone for what happened. Including myself. It happened so that I could understand something and draw a conclusion. Difficulties make me grow. This is my lesson and an opportunity for development.
— I accept what happened.
It should becomes easier. Now I have to answer three questions for myself:
— How can I reduce the negative consequences of the problem, minimize it?
— What is the lesson’s goal? What would I do if I knew beforehand that this would happen: a week, a month, a year earlier?
— Are there any circumstances now that could lead to a similar result?
If they are, now you know what to do with them. The problem is accepted, it has become easier. If not, just wait for a while. The less familiar such a model of response is, the more time it takes for the consciousness to accept, reconstruct and adapt. If it does not go away, you should repeat the procedure and think about your behavior. If nothing helped, get down on your knees on buckwheat and whip yourself with a birch for irresponsible attitude to yourself and your life. Okay, okay, you can do it without buckwheat.
The other good news is that the problem-solving skill of reacting to trouble in this way significantly improves the quality of life and energy level. Try it.